7 Things All Men Should Know About Their Women
Women are complex. Oscar Wilde once said that women are to be loved, not understood. However, there are a couple of things they expect you to know; that you as a man are supposed to know about women.
Before I go into detail, I want to let you know that not all women can be categorized into general stereotypes. Every woman is unique and should be treated as such, deserving your unique attention and commanding your respect. However, here are seven of the top things that every woman wants men to know about them.
She doesn’t always need you to fix it. She just needs you to listen.
Women love to talk; it is in their nature. They have vocal power. She always finds a way to express her thoughts and feelings using words; you, as a man, have the muscle power, and you love to fix; you just want to do something. However, she doesn’t always want you to fix it. She just needs you to listen. Don’t just hear what she’s saying.
According to Berth Uchino (Ph.D.) of the University of Utah, feeling a lack of support from your spouse can lead to inflammation, increasing your risk for cardiovascular disease and other health problems which would usually start on the emotional level.
Listen to her; pay attention to what she’s saying. She just wants you to listen.
She needs you to hear her. She doesn’t just want to be heard; she needs to be heard. She wants to be supported. She wants to be validated. She doesn’t always need you to fix it.
So, sometimes just relax and listen.
She can appreciate something little.
It doesn’t always have to be large and grand; learn to surprise your woman with the little things.
She appreciates the simple kind words of affirmation; the gentle and reassuring touch when she is nervous; and the simple but beautiful flower that you picked up on the way home. Take the time to do something random for her, something spontaneous.
She doesn’t always want your stuff; she wants to know that she is loved by everything you do. It is not the size of the gift or how expensive it is; the true value is in the thoughtfulness with which they were acquired and presented. Real love and genuine affection can be expressed in the simplest of gestures.
The fact that she cries a lot doesn’t make her weak.
She can cry when she’s sad; She can cry when she’s angry; She can cry when she’s frustrated. She can cry when she’s excited. She can cry when she is happy. Okay. So when you see the tears, don’t just say, “You cry too much.” No. It’s part of her feminine expressions. It is alright, and it’s not a sign of weakness.
Actually, it’s a sign of strength. It shows that she is strong and confident enough to fully express her feelings; it shows that she’s vulnerable, and it shows that she’s genuine.
You will see her cry once in a while, and there’s nothing wrong with it. Sometimes it’s an expression of her strength of compassion.
The 2018 Boston Marathon proved that women are not to be seen as weaker than men. During the marathon, a sudden change in the weather led to more than 80% of the men dropping out of the race, while only 12% of the women could not finish. If endurance was going to be the yardstick for measuring strength, women may actually be considered the stronger gender
She can wake up grumpy, and she’s not angry with you.
The result of a study at the Duke University concluded that a woman’s body needs at least twenty more minutes of rest than that of a man. This usually leads to grumpiness. Apart from the grumpy morning thing, you will notice a couple of mood issues that have little or nothing to do with you. There is no reason to be scared. You just need to take some time to study your woman and learn how to love her through mood swings and purely emotional moments that have little or nothing to do with you.
Stop yelling calm down.
Apart from the fact that yelling is not cool, according to the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts, it is also one of the leading causes of divorce in the US and almost all parts of the civilized world. I know you are not violent and you love her, but she won’t relax if you keep telling her to relax. So when you need her to relax, just don’t say anything.
Remember, she processes stress differently from you. So let our vent if she needs to. Stop telling her to relax when she’s angry, agitated, or frustrated. Just a little touch can do the magic; other times, she just needs a simple hug.
I know when she’s agitated, it gets you frustrated because you want to do something, and you are just trying your best to get her to relax; but trust me, telling her to calm down will only make things worse.
So learn to trust your woman, even when she starts venting, just go with the flow and find a way to let her know that you understand her frustrations.
She wants to be your partner, not your mother.
She wants you to see her as a partner, not as your mother, not as somebody who is there for you just to take care of your needs. She needs you to be her partner. Yes, she will step up and play the role of mother, friend, sister, companion, and every other thing you will need in a partner, but you need to give out the resources to do that by playing your part.
She wants to be sure that she is not doing it alone; that she will not be the only one making all the sacrifices. She also needs you to play the role of a man in her life- provider, defender, and protector.
So, don’t be a boring and entitled boyfriend; step up and be the man she needs you to be.
It’s not always about money.
Yes, she loves to be comfortable. She wants you to buy everything for her; even if you can afford the moon, she doesn’t mind; but it is not about your money.
She wants to be loved; she wants to be cared for, and you should not let how much you have right now limit your courage. If she is your woman, come rain, come shine, she will stand by you. It’s not about how much you have; it is the fact that you love her and can give her your world.
Yes, I know you want to be the best for her and give her the world; however, she just wants to love you for you.
According to the late American Billionaire Businessman, Richard Marvin Devos, money cannot buy peace of mind. It cannot heal ruptured relationships, or give meaning to a life that has no meaning.
Whatever you do. Do not equate your love and attention to money. She doesn’t want your money. She wants your heart. She wants you to love her because you love her, and she wants the freedom to be able to return that love because she wants to.
Do not allow these tips to make you lazy; like I said at the beginning of this video, every woman is unique, so take time out to get to know your woman. Love her the way she has never been loved before. Every woman deserves it.