HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR CONFIDENCE AROUND WOMEN
Approaching a beautiful woman for the first time can be very intimidating. I know, and I have been there. The sweaty palms, the dry throats, and the heart palpitations is a real thing and an issue for a lot of men. These are all signs that you may not have the confidence you need to command the attention and the respect of the damsels.
The secret lies in knowing and remembering your power, potential and abilities that you possess as a man. Confidence will no doubt, make you a better lover, boyfriend, and a great husband. So you need it, and I want you to have it.
In this video, I am going to rescue you from all that. You are going to learn some timeless strategies to improve your confidence around women and gain mastery of the masculine charm.
Number 1: Work out- Lifts some weights.
This will boost your confidence in three ways:
When you lift heavy weights or do some other strength-building exercises, testosterone is released in higher quantities, and this helps to push fear out of the mind and body.
Exercise and weight lifting will make you healthier. The healthier you are, the better you will feel, and the better you will look. Of course, more women will be checking you out because you will look great
. Your confidence will skyrocket, and you will feel invincible.
You will feel stronger. As men our minds connects strength to manly status, and we constantly subconsciously compare our strength to other men around us. When you feel stronger, you feel more capable, and this inevitably boosts your confidence.
So, if you are not already doing it, start exercising and lifting weights now.
Number 2: Dress like a winner
You know that feeling you get when you step out in a high-status attire? The way you feel all important and capable? That is the work of serotonin release in the brain. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter and hormone responsible for happiness and is associated with status or a sense of importance. Scientists have proven that you can trick your body and mind into feeling important by just dressing important. Putting on formal clothes makes us feel powerful, and that changes the basic way we see the world,” says Abraham Rutchick, a professor of psychology at California State University, Northridge.
Dress like a successful person, and you will feel more powerful. Women are more comfortable with men who know how to dress. When you dress well, more women will check you out, and this will also boost your confidence. Women often are attracted to people who look smart and successful.
Number 3: Keep a good posture
A good posture is head up, chin high and shoulders square. A slouching posture is a sign of defeat and lack of confidence. No woman wants to be around you if you look like that.
You see, confidence is not just what is in your heart or what you are capable of. If you are feeling something, you will be able to communicate it by the way you stand, sit and generally carry yourself. According to Richard Petty, co-author of the study and professor of psychology at Ohio State University, how we sit or stand does not only affect what we think about ourselves but also how we think about ourselves. “People assume their confidence is coming from their own thoughts. They don’t realize their posture is affecting how much they believe in what they’re thinking,” he said.
Look like a man, stand like a man!
Number 4:- Be purposeful
It is true that you need to look the part and dress the part; however, you also need to be the part! What will sustain your confidence is your clarity of purpose and your pursuit of it. The most confident people you will ever meet are those with a clear direction of what they are on earth to do. According to Researcher Yoon-Hee Kwon of Northern Illinois University having purpose produces a feeling of walking on sunshine. Women are more attracted to men who are clearly on a mission, rather than the guy who is yet to figure out where he belongs in the scheme of things. A famous philosopher once said that a man without a kingdom does not deserve a queen.
Your woman wants a man in whom she can believe in, whose dreams she can share and someone she can support. If you are not clear about what you want to do in life and you have no proven track record of passionately pursuing it, you may not feel confident enough around women.
So, get it together and pursue a life of purpose.
Number 5: Forget your failures
One of the most potent confidence killers is your past experience with failure. If you constantly think about your past failures, you will not have the confidence to attempt big things now and in the future. When you are dealing with women, never dwell on what has gone wrong in your past relationships or your previous approaches with women.
In the words of Thomas S. Monson, “the past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.”
Practice what is called selective amnesia, where you choose to forget that you had a rough experience and choosing to dwell only on the ones where you won and succeeded. When you constantly remember how you succeeded with a particular wonderful lady, or another goal that you have succeeded in, you will feel the fear vanish, and your confidence will soar.
Number 6: Step out of your comfort zone
When you only do the things you are comfortable with, you are digging the grave of your confidence grave. While you do not have to do anything dangerous or unnecessary, make it a point of attempting something new every day, and you will see yourself growing in confidence. Start with little things such as saying hi to your neighbor or striking up a conversation with a new colleague at work. According to Goalcast author, Matt Valentine, the more you do something that is uncomfortable, the more comfortable you are going to get at doing something uncomfortable.
The secret of confidence is that it has nothing to do with the woman. If you can build confidence at work, school, or home, it will reflect on your general personality, and you will be able to man up when you are around her.
Number 7: Groom yourself.
According to relationship expert Patrick Banks, “the way you treat your body is really a reflection of your own self-esteem.” Every time you step out of your house looking haggard and unkempt, you are saying to people that you don’t value yourself that much and they, in turn, will never take you seriously. Forget the myth that women don’t place much focus on how you look. Everyone woman is attracted to a well-groomed man – including the hottest girl in the room.
I am definitely not asking you to spend a fortune on haircuts and fancy outfits; you just need to pay a little bit of attention to your beards, fingernails, and attire. Dress for the occasion, learn color combinations, and trim your fingernails. Stuff like that will show that you value and care for yourself.
Number 8: Improve your conversation skills
When you feel socially inadequate, especially when it comes to communication, your confidence takes a huge hit. This may lead to a vicious cycle where each failed social interaction leads to a drop in confidence, which in turn leads to more failed social interactions. If not arrested early enough, your confidence would hit a sub-zero level in no time.
The good news is that this can be easily arrested by doing something as simple as practicing talking to one stranger every day until you no longer stutter or stammer when it happens to be a lovely lady. It doesn’t matter what you talk about or who you strike it up with, just make it a point to start and sustain a conversation with a total stranger for at least a couple of minutes every day. This will boost your social confidence, and it will spill over into your confidence around women.
You see, it is not rocket science, after all. Building confidence around women may take time, but it is doable and highly rewarding for the gentleman who wants to learn the ways of the ‘ladies’ man.